Let's be honest. When a relationship ends, especially when it leaves you feeling raw, bewildered, or just plain wronged, there's a whisper that often turns into a shout: "They were a narcissist!" Suddenly, every baffling behavior, every selfish act, every moment that made you question your sanity gets neatly filed under "NPD." And while it’s incredibly tempting to embrace this shiny, validating label, let's take a dry, slightly sarcastic, and dare I say, deeply understanding look at why your ex might just be… your ex.

Let's be honest, the word "affair" often conjures images of clandestine meetings, forbidden passion, and a thrilling escape from the mundane. In the movies, it's all dramatic lighting and whispered confessions. In real life? Well, for a time, it can feel, dare I say, delicious. There's a heady cocktail of novelty, secrecy, and ego-boost that makes an affair seem like the ultimate indulgence. You're getting attention, feeling desired, perhaps even rediscovering a version of yourself you thought was lost to laundry lists and lukewarm dinners.

In a world that glorifies independence and self-sufficiency, cutting people off has become a common practice. We tell ourselves that we are protecting our peace, setting boundaries, or refusing to tolerate toxicity. And sometimes, that’s true. But what happens when cutting people off becomes a pattern—when every relationship ends the same way, with distance instead of resolution? What does it say when you can’t sustain a romantic relationship? When you feel too overwhelmed to tolerate the feelings that go along with the tough stuff? Or the narrative is always the same when a relationship ends? Or when you find others keep walking away from you?

You know that moment when your child bursts into tears over something that seems, at least on the surface, so small? Like the wrong color cup, or a sibling sitting too close, or the end of a favorite song? If this sounds like your kid, or your family, we’d love to support you. Reach out. We’re here to help.